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Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This March, as I am living through a debilitating and challenging flare, I am going to write about the reality of living through one.

Holidays! How we love and look forward to them! The ability to escape our everyday lives; the capability to evade the monotony and mundane aspects of our lives. A welcome break from our lives, especially those aspects that we don’t like or have trouble accepting.

When living with a chronic illness, oh how we wish we could escape our bodies; a wish that we could break away from the crippling and disabling symptoms that affect every facet of our lives. And never is this more true, when amid a cruel and torturous flare.

The capacity to run away and leave behind our weak, frail and pain-riddled bodies would be something that we would welcome in a heartbeat. But, this is merely a fantasy; something that could only happen in the imagination behind books or films.

During A Flare There Is Only Staying and Enduring

The reality is that we are trapped; imprisoned with no such ability to escape or run away. Our bodies become prison cells shackling us inside its dark and murky walls, unable to move far, and although flares come and go, it still feels like a life sentence us, an innocent victim, as the realisation that these flares will reoccur time and time again.

There is no break or respite when living with a cruel and relentless flare. No, there is only staying; trapped inside the prison cell that is our body and only able to lie and endure the harrowing effects of our symptoms.

"There is no respite when living with a cruel and relentless flare. No, there is only staying; trapped inside the prison cell that is our body and only able to lie and endure the harrowing effects of our symptoms." Share on X

There is a lot of staying when living through a horrible and debilitating flare. Yes, much time becomes spent living inside a body that often no longer feels like our own, one that has been taking over by illness and its accompanying symptoms. But during a flare, there is a lot of staying inside our homes, our sanctuaries, places that we deem safe even when illness and its symptoms invade them.

curled up in a foetal position because of pain — Yes, much time becomes spent living inside a body that often no longer feels like our own, one that has been taking over by illness and its accompanying symptoms.

Pain and illness have a habit of making our lives shrink as for days, weeks, and sometimes even months, we are unable to venture far from our homes if at all. As such, do not have the opportunity to see other people apart from those we live with, leaving us feeling isolated.

How we wish during a flare that the exacerbating symptoms would leave. Still, they prove to be stubborn, refusing to go, staying in our lives for the foreseeable future at least.

During A Flare, There Is No Doing

During a flare, there is no doing. No, there is only suffering and enduring severe and continuous symptoms. The pain, fatigue, and other persistent and tenacious symptoms leave us in bed, unable to function or participate in everyday life. And as such, resting, waiting for the symptoms to subside and the flare to pass becomes the new norm.

"The pain, fatigue, and other persistent and tenacious symptoms leave us in bed, unable to function or participate in everyday life. And as such waiting for the flare to pass becomes the new norm." Share on X

In my years of living with a chronic illness, the only doing during a flare is finding new ways to do things without exacerbating the already debilitating symptoms. We do what we can, but it can often feel like it is not enough. And as such, we no longer feel productive, or someone who is doing. We think, therefore, that we are a burden.

black and white photo of woman staring out of a window — During a flare, we must learn new and inventive ways to do things without exacerbating the already severe symptoms.

During a flare, it certainly feels that the days and weeks filled with nothing or at least the bare minimum. No, during an exacerbation, our days are not filled with doing; the days and weeks become concerned with coping and surviving.

"No, during an exacerbation, our days are not filled with doing; the days and weeks become concerned with coping and surviving." Share on X

Not Being, Just Existing

Even when living with the constant and persistent presence of chronic illness, we still manage to carve ourselves an identity outside of it. We know who we are, and can define ourselves beyond that of someone living with a long-term health condition.

When amid a severe and debilitating flare it can feel that we are barely being, only existing. Photo by **Bianca Salgado** from **Pexels**

But when living through an endless, paralysing flare, we no longer feel like ourselves. Our life, our whole being becomes revolved around the current, paralysing exacerbation and the symptoms that accompany it. Our being becoming limited by the severe, debilitating symptoms, and left unable to the things that everyone else often takes for granted.

"When living through an endless, paralysing flare, we no longer feel like ourselves. Our life, our whole being becomes revolved around the current, paralysing exacerbation and the symptoms that accompany it." Share on X

…But Starting Towards Targeting Goals

But it can become tiresome, living our lives with such restricting limitations. And as such, we begin to push our limits somewhat to stave boredom and see more than the four walls of our prison; a prison constructed by chronic illness and particularly the repeated flares.

"But it can become tiresome, living our lives with such restricting limitations. And as such, we begin to push our limits somewhat to stave boredom and see more than the four walls of our prison." Share on X

In my experience, confidence can take a real battering when a severe and impairing flare. During these times, I am unsure and apprehensive when doing something or going somewhere, which before came readily and with no hesitation. But during a flare, or for some time after it, I become anxious as I am afraid that doing so will trigger another onslaught of unpleasant symptoms.

woman wearing distressed denim jeans sitting down inside room — When living with chronic illness and burdened by a flare, we can lose some of our confidence and become unsure and apprehensive about our everyday life. Photo by Imani Clovis on Unsplash

And so, I set myself small, little targets to achieve certain things. Particularly, visiting such places that I have found to trigger symptoms such as dizziness or those places where I’ve experienced falls. When I meet these targets, I reward myself, although the real reward is the increased confidence it gives me.

The Knowledge of Future Flares Weighing Heavily On My Mind

Experiencing and living through a flare, is incredibly unpleasant; it severely limits our lives and the choices available to us. So, it weighs heavily on my mind that this current flare will not be the last. The weight of the knowledge that this condition is my life now, and seeing future impending downturns is burdensome. Such insight can be frightening and discouraging; we want normality and freedom from the confines of pain and illness.

I know that I will adjust. I know that eventually, I will endure and persevere against such adversities. I withstand it because I have to. But I also know that I will survive because I have done before and able to again.

"Experiencing and living through a flare, is incredibly unpleasant; it severely limits our lives and the choices available to us. So, it weighs heavily on my mind that this current flare will not be the last." Share on X

It is further discouraging with the knowledge that such downturns are becoming more frequent and severe. Such awareness is bothersome and frightening. However, when weighing all the evidence from previous exacerbations in symptoms and functioning, I know that I will adjust. I know that eventually, I will endure and persevere against such adversities. I withstand it because I have to. But I also know that I will survive because I have done before and able to again.

"I know that I will adjust. I know that eventually, I will endure and persevere against such adversities. I withstand it because I have to. But I also know that I will survive because I have done before and able to again." Share on X

March Link-Up Party with A Chronic Voice

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This month, I will be looking at snapshots of a ‘chronic life’ if it was portrayed on screen.

Recently I watched ‘Unbroken: The Path to Redemption,’ the inspiring of Louis Zamperini. The film follows his return from World War II, and his ongoing struggles to adjust back to civilian life.

‘Film Based on Real Life’ – one of my favourite categories on Netflix

I particularly enjoy watching films which depict true stories of real people. I love movies which capture the real lives and real struggles of amazing and inspiring people. Films capturing the stories of overcoming great adversity are incredibly poignant for a person like myself, who is suffering from demons.

Capturing Life With A Chronic Illness

It has made me wonder what a film capturing the life of someone living with a chronic illness would entail. Would anyone even enjoy or be interested in a movie depicting a story of someone diagnosed with a neurological disorder?

My love for those films depicting the true stories of inspiring individuals made me reflect on what a film about someone living with a chronic illness would be life.
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The answer would, unfortunately, be no. The truth is that although life with a chronic illness is anything but ordinary, it is one that can be monotonous. In the film Groundhog Day, the life of the main character repeats on an endless loop. The protagonist destined to repeat the same day over and over again. And this description is very much like what it is like to live with a chronic illness.

The reality of living with a chronic illness, it that every day is a repetition of the day before; consisting of the same symptoms. And restricted by the same limitations that these symptoms create.

"The reality of living with a chronic illness, it that every day is a repetition of the day before; consisting of the same symptoms. And restricted by the same limitations that these symptoms create." Share on X

The beauty of the stories captured on screen is the vast array of different scenery; the varied locations in which the characters spend their time.

What would the snapshots of your chronic life show?
Photo by **Porapak Apichodilok** from **Pexels**

For those who are chronically ill, the majority of the time we spend within the confines of the same four walls. And when we do venture, out, we do so too familiar and safe locations.

And much of the time is spent alone; alone in our suffering. When we do venture out, or see people, we only do so when we feel comfortable enough to be seen, or feel somewhat in control of our symptoms. Being in control of something, in life where we think we have very little control.

Financing Between What We Can and Cannot Do

In this mundane and monotonous existence of living with chronic illness, is a need for carefully financing between what we can and cannot do. We wish that we could live like those characters in our favourite films, but unfortunately illness and pain our ability to do so.

Living with a chronic illness requires the need to balance the books between what we can and cannot do…
Photo by **Jessica Lewis** from **Pexels**

Instead, we must carefully budget the limited energy we possess to be able to carry out the most critical tasks on our to-do list. And still, we must ensure that we have enough energy for the next day. As we balance the books between illness and the rest of our lives, the losses we have endured become much more evident.

"As we balance the books between illness and the rest of our lives, the losses we have endured become much more evident." Share on X

Chronic illness, a constant thief, stealing abilities that once came so naturally. The continuous losses that we experience so cruelly are part of life with a chronic illness that we must grieve. It is not, however, a snapshot of this chronic life that we wish to be captured on screen for others to witness and study.

"Chronic illness, a constant thief, stealing abilities that once came so naturally. The continuous losses that we experience so cruelly are part of life with a chronic illness that we must grieve." Share on X

Chronic Illness: A Controlling Thief

Watching those characters in our favourite television show or films, they seem so confident; in control of their lives. When living with a neurological disorder, however, much of our control transferred to the disease itself. Symptoms are controlling our bodies, affecting every facet of our lives.

We must learn to accept that for which we cannot control. And to have the courage to change those things that we can. To let go of the life that we dreamed we have, and to embrace the reality of the new life that has entered our life unexpectedly.

"We must learn to accept that for which we cannot control. And to have the courage to change those things that we can. And to embrace the reality of the new life that has entered our life unexpectedly." Share on X

Exchanging Helplessness For Control in Defiance of the Uncontrollable

We wish we could exchange the feelings of helplessness for being in control in defiance of the uncontrollable. We desperately want to exchange our chronic lives and its debilitating symptoms for something better. A life that largely depends on surviving for a more productive and accomplished existence.

Living with a chronic illness requires constant adaptation, and with its growing what we can no longer do, we must exchange these for what we can. To live with life we can and to try and not dwell on the life we can no longer have. And the wish to exchange this new mundane life for one which is exciting and unique to be on the big screen.

"Living with a chronic illness requires constant adaptation, and exchange what we can no longer do with things that we can. To live with life we can and to try and not dwell on the life we can no longer have." Share on X

Illness Is A Motivation Killer

I have great admiration for those characters that demonstrate a great deal of motivation to improve their lives and the lives of those around them. Living with a chronic illness, however, find that my motivation ebbs and flows. It is easy to find the motivation to do something, do anything on those rare good days. On the days where symptoms are unrelenting, it is hard even to find the motivation to get out of bed.

When going through the tough times and find ourselves in the darkness, it can be challenging to claw ourselves out of the dark pit. The motivation to do anything is non-existent.

But dig ourselves out of the pit, we must, to rebuild a life worth living. It may not be the life we had planned, or a story worthy of an Oscar-worthy film. But it can still be a life that we can be proud of; it might not be a normal life, but it is ours.

"It may not be the life we had planned, or a story worthy of an Oscar-worthy film. But it can still be a life that we can be proud of; it might not be a normal life, but it is ours." Share on X