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The Enduring Legacy of Chronic Illness

April 13, 2021 No Comments

Today I lay on my bed, incapacitated. Impaired and overwhelmed with intense and debilitating symptoms. Severe shooting pains in my back, travelling down my legs. Extreme dizziness in which the room refuses to stop spinning. Crippling fatigue. All of which has followed me from the moment I got up this morning. And undoubtedly will continue until I go to bed. This incident is not isolated, however. It occurred yesterday and will inevitably follow far longer than just tomorrow. My life is one example of the enduring legacy of chronic illness.

During the most difficult days of living with chronic illness, thoughts become preoccupied of the past and future in particular. Wishing for the past when illness was not a worry we had and worried for the future and what it has in store. Photo by **Alex Green** from **Pexels**.

Unable to move or go anywhere, I have no choice but to live inside my head. Alone, with only dark thinkings, concerns and worries for companionship. But when living with chronic illness, the mind rarely consists of thoughts regarding the present. Instead, the ghosts are that of the past and future.

"When symptoms are bad, I have no choice but to live inside my head. Alone, with only dark thinkings, concerns and worries for companionship. But such thoughts are rarely of the present. They are of the past and future." Share on X

When living with chronic illness, and especially at times of intense suffering, much time is spent wishing for the past. There are so many times when I desperately want to return to a time when this condition did not exist. Or a time when the symptoms were not such a significant part in everyday life.

"Much time is spent wishing for the past. There are so many times when I desperately want to return to a time when this condition did not exist. Or a time when the symptoms were not such a significant part in everyday life." Share on X

Thoughts of the future prove to be even more terrifying as we worry about the future. When I imagine the future, I fear my health will be much worse than it is now. And a fear that I will become even more dependent on others than I am currently.

"Thoughts of the future prove to be even more terrifying as we worry about the future. When I imagine the future, I fear my health will be much worse than it is now, and I will become even more dependent on others." Share on X

The Trauma of The Present When Living With Pain and Illness

But very little time is spent dwelling on the present, even though mindfulness and meditation educate us on the importance of doing so. But the here and now offers its very own traumas.

"But very little time is spent dwelling on the present. Because the here and now offers its very own traumas. The present embodies much pain and suffering, which has no pause button or end date." Share on X

The present moment embodies pain and suffering, which has no end date or pause button. Even though there was a time before illness and its accompanying symptoms became so firmly tethered to my life, it now feels that it has an enduring legacy on the rest of my life.

It has cast a dark, uncertain shadow over the remainder of my days, creating anxiety and fear for what it next has in store for me. I have lost so much because of FND – my mobility, confidence but it continues to steal things. And the anguish that the illness may, or very likely will worsen over time, constantly hangs over my head.

Still, people constantly ask whether I am better. Only then to be at the receiving end of exasperating looks when I admit that I am not. Or being at the receiving end of cliched get well soon cards during periods when symptoms are at their worst. All well-meaning but only serve as painful reminders of this illness’s permanence that impacts my entire life.

"I am often at the receiving end of questions on whether I am better. Well-meaning, but these questions only severe as painful reminders of the permanence of chronic illness that continues to impact my entire life." Share on X

The legacy of chronic illness and its repercussions are enduring, relentless and all-consuming.

Still, it’s almost as if the definition of the word chronic has escaped the memory of everyone lucky enough not to experience it.

The Insidiousness of Chronic Illness

Chronic does not mean temporary. Nor is chronic defined as being predictable, consistent or monotonous.

Instead, it is something that is and continues to be insidious.

Illness and its accompanying symptoms became the most undesirable routine. But as much as unpredictable illness can be, it has also become the most predictable aspect of my life. Everything changes, but at the same time, nothing changes. Each day becomes consumed by the very same symptoms and limitations from the day before. Some days are better than others, but the symptoms are always there, constantly a part of my life. Although time continues to go on, it often feels that for me, it does not. Instead, it is like time has become stuck on pause.

"Some days are better than others, but the symptoms are always there, constantly a part of my life. Although time continues to go on, it often feels that for me, it does not. Instead, it is like time has become stuck on pause." Share on X

When living with a chronic illness, it can feel like our lives become stuck on pause while the time and life continues for those luckily enough to be healthy and abled-bodied. Photo by Fa Barboza on Unsplash.

Chronic illness is like a squatter. It enters, taking residence and then refusing to leave. Playing friendly with it and gentle persuasion does not work. Instead, it constantly adapts, becoming more robust and resistant to defeat. It becomes an ongoing deal, one that you are unable to ever ‘get over.’

No, instead, every single day becomes a fight, a fight between myself and my fragile, malfunctioning body. Yes, it helps to keep me alive but it feels that it is intent on persecuting my every moment.

The journey of living with such an illness is disheartening as well as deeply frustrating. Setbacks and disappointment inevitably follow signs of progress and improvement. Although sadly there seems to be many more setbacks and disappointment than ones of progress and improvement.

"The journey of living with chronic illness is disheartening as well as frustrating. Setbacks inevitably follow signs of improvement. Although there seems to be many more setbacks than ones of improvement." Share on X

The intense pulsating pain wreaking havoc throughout the entire body has become an unwelcome but sadly too familiar intrusion with the beginning of each new day.

The Enduring Legacy of Chronic Illness

But illness has an enduring legacy, so it is not just the here and now interrupted by its symptoms. No, the signs of ill-health will be forever crashing moments of carefree fun, parties, celebrations and relaxing holidays.

"Chronic illness has an enduring legacy, so it is not just the here and now interrupted by its symptoms. No, the signs of ill-health will be forever crashing moments of carefree fun, parties, celebrations and relaxing holidays." Share on X

Every pain and strange sensation is here to stay. Forever. No longer can muscle strains or sprains heal with heat or ice. Muscle stretches or exercises no longer ease the uncomfortable tightness. Instead, the pain never goes away. No longer are dizziness or overwhelming fatigue are mild symptoms of an acute illness; they are now permanent. The all-over, throbbing ache and trembling are not rare occurrences; it is my reality every single day, 365 days of the year and beyond.

Enduring Yes, But Never Used To It

However, it does not mean that I am used to this disorder or everything that accompanies it. There is still a shock to the system whenever symptoms suddenly emerge. Grief ebbs and flows, becoming stronger and more intense when symptoms intensify or during extremely debilitating flares. My life with this disorder is constantly in flux. There are times when I can cope beautifully with the ups and downs of living with FND. At other times, however, all I want is to curl up and cry with the injustice of living with an illness that will never disappear. And the injustice of having to endure such severe and debilitating symptoms all day, every day.

It feels like my life is constantly in flux. There are times when I can cope and get on with my life despite chronic illness and its limitations but other times I am not and just want to scream and cry with the injustice of it all. Photo by Camila Quintero Franco on Unsplash.

"My life with this disorder is constantly in flux. There are times when I can cope beautifully with the ups and downs of living with chronic illness. At other times, all I want is to curl up and cry." Share on X

I adapt to the changes in my body and the increasing limitations with no other choice but to do so, but still remembering what I used to be capable of, but which is now no longer accurate. Even if I prefer not to think of the losses incurred over the years of living with illness, my medical records track them for me. I can hope for remission or a cure to return to the normal I knew many years before but knowing with great sadness that it is an impossible dream.

Because chronic illness is enduring, as well as the legacy it leaves behind.

"Chronic illness is enduring, as well as the legacy it leaves behind." Share on X

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Loving Yourself Isn’t Easy When Chronically Ill

February 15, 2021 1 Comment

There are insurmountable challenges when living with chronic illness. The constant, excruciating pain. The neverending fatigue that even the longest night’s sleep refuses to fix. The endless anxiety of never knowing when symptoms will strike next, leaving you incapable of doing well, anything. But one challenge is often overlooked. And that challenge is the ability to love yourself. No, loving yourself isn’t easy when chronically ill.

"The constant, excruciating pain. The neverending fatigue that even the longest night's sleep refuses to fix. The endless anxiety of never knowing when symptoms will strike. No, loving yourself isn't easy when chronically ill." Share on X

When we are diagnosed with a chronic illness, we wish we could break up with our bodies that insist on tormenting us with such debilitating symptoms – photo by **Gabby K** from **Pexels**.

It is easy to love yourself when things are going well, and the road ahead lies ample opportunities. The future looks bright and promising, and one which you cannot wait to explore. But all these carefully mapped-out-plans suddenly become rewritten by our bodies. The body that we thought we knew implicitly suddenly becomes something we no longer recognise. Our body is no longer a source of comfort and familiarity, but instead is now a strange, unfamiliar vessel that we loathe. It becomes a prison, holding us captive. A sentence which we are unable to escape, and which we must endure.

It may have been easy to love ourselves before the invasion of chronic illness, but it becomes increasingly difficult with it now a permanent part of our everyday life.

Why Is It Hard to Love Yourself When Living With a Chronic Illness?

It is hard to love a body when you can no longer recognise it as your own. After illness comes into your life, your body no longer feels like it once did. Nor does it work like it once did. The body once a friend now an enemy intent on making your life a misery. How can we love a body that is continually tormenting us?

"Your body no longer feels like it once did. Nor does it work like it once did. The body once a friend now an enemy intent on making your life a misery. How can we love a body that is continually tormenting us?" Share on X

It isn’t easy to love your body when it is continually reminding us that it’s flawed and wrecked with constant, debilitating pain. The first sensation I feel upon waking is intense, throbbing pain, and it is also the last thing I perceive before I go to sleep. If I am lucky to fall asleep, that is. However, more often than not, such intense, crippling pain keeps me awake all night, which those in the chronic illness community call painsomnia.

"It isn't easy to love your body when it continually reminds you that it's flawed and wrecked with constant, debilitating pain. It is challenging to love a body that lets you down and prevents you from living a 'normal' life." Share on X

In the morning, when I look in the mirror, all I can observe as I study my reflection is the extremely ashen complexion of my skin and the strikingly dark circles under my eyes. These two features make me look as tired and unwell as I feel. Even applying the best concealer I own does little to disguise the too dark circles under my eyes, or improve my complexion. Still, I look sick, affecting my self-esteem and becoming increasingly unconfident over my physical appearance.

It is challenging to love the part of your body that continually lets you down and prevents you from living a ‘normal’ life.

No, Loving Yourself Isn’t Easy When Chronically Ill

I hate my legs the most of any part of my body. They are the part of my body that hurts the most. I can no longer trust them as they frequently collapse from under me with no warning. As a result, I no longer feel safe in my own body, and it is a constant source of anxiety and worry. It is also beyond frustrating when my body refuses to go along with my plans.

"I no longer feel safe in my own body, and it is a constant source of anxiety and worry. It is also beyond frustrating when my body refuses to go along with my plans." Share on X

I feel self-conscious as I stumble around as my legs tremble beneath me. A gait similar to that of a drunk person; I feel people’s stares in judgment or puzzlement.

The constant failings of my body is a continual reminder that I am not in control of it, but instead am at the mercy of my own body.

"The constant failings of my body is a continual reminder that I am not in control of it, but instead am at the mercy of my own body." Share on X

With my legs and mobility worsening, I have become reliant on mobility aids to get around. Something that often makes me feel embarrassed and insecure. As I look around, I fail to see anyone else my age also needing such aids. I am unsuccessful in seeing myself or my experiences of living with a neurological disorder and disability reflected in the books, television programmes or films I surround myself with while trying to fill the void of my isolation. It often makes me question where, and even if I belong. As I feel I don’t belong, I struggle to make friends because it affects my self-worth and self-esteem. Just another reason why it can be a struggle to love myself.

"I can't see myself or my experiences of living with a neurological disorder reflected in the books, television programmes or films I surround myself with, making me question where, and even if I belong." Share on X

It Isn’t Easy to Love a Body That Holds You Back; Unable To Become The Person You Want To Be

It isn’t easy to love a body that holds you back. I had so many dreams and aspirations when I was young. I dreamed of a career as a psychologist, aspirations of travelling a little more, and perhaps marriage and children later on in life. But when my health deteriorated such dreams and aspirations seemingly became unreachable. And things that once were easy and now much more difficult due to the severity of the symptoms. Left, being unable to do very much by myself, leaves me feeling incredibly unproductive and worthless, to be honest. I feel trapped in the prison of my body, forced to endure painful and uncomfortable bodily sensations, feeling ashamed of how little I have achieved so far in my life.

"I feel trapped in the prison of my body, forced to endure painful and uncomfortable bodily sensations, feeling ashamed of how little I have achieved so far in my life." Share on X

Living a life in which I cannot do much, I always worry that I and my life are incredibly dull. With the inability to go out by myself, books, films and television programmes have become a passport to the outside world. With little experience or excitement, much of my conversations become focused on what I’ve read or seen. I worry that I have become boring, and is how I come across to others.

Trying To Not Let Chronic Illness Rob Me of Self-Love

Chronic illness has stolen so much from me, but I have also allowed it to rob me of self-love. But perhaps I have been looking at myself and my body all wrong. I have only been able to see what illness has taken from me. But as much it has taken, it has also given. When it feels the hardest, I should acknowledge all that my body can still do for me. At times, during a severe flare, it can feel that my entire body is failing I should shift my focus onto those parts that still are working.

"Chronic illness has stolen so much from me, but I have also allowed it to rob me of self-love." Share on X

I also need to remind myself that my distance from the world does not make me less, but instead gives me a unique perspective on life. When faced with the worst in life, you can appreciate and value the small pleasures in life, and because of it, we choose to be as good as we can to the world and those in it.

To combat the worthlessness and self-blame that chronic illness invokes, I instead need to embrace self-love. That means accepting myself and my illness despite wishing things were different. It also means yielding self-compassion when unable to do x, y or z and celebrating those times I can. As Whitney Houston once sang, “Learning to love yourself/Is the greatest love of all.”

"I need to accept myself and my illness despite wishing things were different. As Whitney Houston once sang, "Learning to love yourself/Is the greatest love of all." Share on X

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Anxiety; Through The Prism of Chronic Illness

February 2, 2021 1 Comment

Anxiety, like an unwanted stalker, has followed me for as long as I can remember.

Moments of panic and worry punctuated my life. Anxious thoughts overpowered my brain. All of which existed long before being diagnosed with a neurological disorder. Although the symptoms of which existed from a very young age, they became more pronounced as I grew up. However, doctors could find no cause to explain such symptoms. The anxiety that had always been a part of my life became a source of blame for my symptoms.

After many years of searching for answers, and many more doctors’ visits and hospital appointments, I finally had answers. I had a diagnosis and a physical explanation for my symptoms.

Often when doctors can find no organic cause for the symptoms a patient is enduring, anxiety is blamed -photo by **Suzy Hazelwood** from **Pexels**.

The anxiety that had long pursued me was, in fact, a symptom of a neurological disorder and not the cause of it as doctors had long suspected. You would expect that finally having answers would lessen and quiet it, but instead, this diagnosis only became an amplifier for my existing anxiety.

It used to be a complete mystery, but now I have a better understanding of anxiety through the prism of chronic illness. Now I realise that anxiety is not a separate issue but has developed because of a chronic illness.

"It used to be a complete mystery, but now I have a better understanding of anxiety through the prism of chronic illness. Anxiety is not a separate issue but has developed because of chronic illness." Share on X

Anxiety: Another Symptom of Living With Chronic Illness

On reflection, the sudden appearance of intense, mysterious symptoms triggered the fear and panic that often paralysed me, stopping me in my tracks. When I understood the symptoms and why they were occurring, it no longer elicited the same terror that they used to. The anxiety was still an issue, but I could now categorise it as another symptom of living with a chronic illness.

Every new twinge or pain causes a wave of anxiety as I worry what it means for me and my future.

There is still much of my condition that is shrouded in mystery. And it’s this unknown, the uncertainty that incites much anxiety in my life. With every new pain, or spasm, or symptom, an alarm bell begins to sound. I question whether such a sensation is normal, something related to my condition, or something else entirely. I worry as I try to work out if I should be worried.

"There is still much of my condition that is shrouded in mystery. And it's this unknown, the uncertainty that incites much anxiety in my life." Share on X

Becoming Hypersensitive and Overly Vigilant of Your Body and Health

When symptoms have gone on for so long, you can no longer remember how it feels to reside inside a ‘normal’ and fully functioning body. As a result, you aren’t always able to trust your perception regarding your body and subsequent health. As a result, you become incredibly hypersensitive and vigilant of your body in ways that you would otherwise never need to be.

"You aren't always able to trust your perception regarding your body. As a result, you become incredibly hypersensitive and vigilant of your body in ways that you would otherwise never need to be." Share on X

The unpredictability and lack of control over such relentless symptoms often mean that you can never really be prepared for when they are suddenly going to appear.

I usually spend energy, perhaps more energy than I can spare worrying on what people think of me, or whether I will be able to walk or get out of bed each new morning when I wake. Before I’ve begun my day, anxiety is there, as I worry what the symptoms will have in store for me for the day ahead. Thoughts fly through my head, such as “If I do this today, will it aggravate and worsen the symptoms?”

"Before I've begun my day, anxiety is there, as I worry what the symptoms will have in store for me for the day ahead." Share on X

Every day I worry that anything I do will somehow trigger or worsen symptoms.

On rare occasions, when mornings are uneventful, and symptoms are not present, there is a moment of joy. I imagine what can be done with this day of relative freedom from the confines of illness. However, this moment of ecstasy proves to be fleeting as once again, anxiety resurfaces. Thoughts such as “I might be feeling well, but I know that it won’t last for long” run through my mind. Anxious that at any moment, the symptoms will suddenly reemerge spoiling the day. There is also the worry of doing anything that may trigger the symptoms or worsen them.

Anxious When Leaving The House Alongside Physical Symptoms

In my experience, the unpleasant and relentless symptoms are difficult enough to live with and manage inside the safety of home. Symptoms can often be unpredictable and severe with nothing to do but to endure them. But symptoms can be much more challenging to control or predict when outside the house with all the outside world’s distractions. And as such, anxiety can often rear its head when needing to venture out into the outside world. The fear that the symptoms will suddenly appear ruining plans and our fun. Or when they do occur, we will be unable to manage or control them, thus leaving them to become out of control.

When living with a neurological condition, **there can be constant anxiety of suffering a fall** and left unable to get back up. Photo by **Daria Shevtsova** from **Pexels**

The most severe symptom that I have to contend with is the weakness and trembling in my legs.

Such symptoms can result in them giving way, without warning and leaving me lying in a heap on the floor. Such occurrences can be frightening even when at home. Leaving the house can be daunting. Images of my legs suddenly collapsing, leaving me lying in the middle of a road flash through my mind, or falling over and not being able to get back up. Flashbacks of the times such incidents have also haunted my thoughts, leaving a heavy pit of worry deep in the bottom my stomach

‘Anxious because I am unable to trust my own body’

A lot of the anxiety I experience is a result of not being able to trust my body. Every day it’s hit or miss whether my body will hold out. I don’t trust that my legs will allow me to walk. I don’t trust that I won’t get dizzy and need to hold onto something to steady myself. As a result of these severe, debilitating symptoms, I no longer feel safe anywhere. Anywhere can now seem threatening and unsafe, as my symptoms can follow me anywhere, so anxiety frequently follows me also.

"A lot of the anxiety I experience is a result of not being able to trust my body. Every day it's hit or miss whether my body will hold out. I don't trust that my legs will allow me to walk. I don't trust that I won't get dizzy." Share on X

"I no longer feel safe anywhere. Anywhere can now seem threatening and unsafe, as my symptoms can follow me anywhere, so anxiety frequently follows me also." Share on X

The many what-ifs surrounding my illness and all the uncertainty it creates means that my thoughts are continually racing. My mind needs to be frequently distracted; otherwise, I can spiral into panic. It is easy to find distractions at home. I practice mindfulness or play fun word games or complete jigsaw puzzles. I read or exercise to keep my mind and body as healthy as possible. But once I am out, the things I can do to distract myself are limited, so anxiety skyrockets. I become more vigilant of every sensation and symptom that is occurring within my body. The trembling in my legs heightens to the point that it feels they will collapse at any second.

Being At The Mercy of Both Anxiety and Chronic Illness

When living with anxiety and chronic illness, you are at the mercy of both. When there is a flare in either the symptoms of chronic illness or anxiety, the other will follow. Or when anxious, the already present symptoms will almost certainly worsen. When experiencing a severe, debilitating, crippling flare anxiety will also. Juggling anxiety on top of illness isn’t impossible but continually proves to be a frustrating and time-consuming challenge to master.

Anxiety has always been present, a by-product of an illness that I had yet to be aware of and continues to be a mystery. But it has been easier to understand through the prism of chronic illness. Anxiety is not a separate issue from living with a chronic illness but often develops because of it.

"Anxiety has always been present, a by-product of an illness that I had yet to be aware of and continues to be a mystery. But it has been easier to understand through the prism of chronic illness." Share on X

If living with a chronic illness was a battle, then it is one that I am unable to win. The skills such as mindfulness and breathing exercise have proven to be useful in lessening the anxiety but have had no effect on the physical symptoms I endure. But perhaps the anxiety that accompanies it is one that I can defeat.

Anxiety Through The Prism of Chronic Illness

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The Pain of New Year When Chronically Ill

January 17, 2021 7 Comments

As the clock strikes midnight on the 1st January, it so heralds the beginning of a brand new year. A new year offers the chance for a blank slate, new beginnings and exciting prospects and opportunities. However, when living with a chronic illness, the start of a new year can give rise to pain and uncertainty.

As January arrives, it is a time to celebrate the end of one year and the beginning of another. And a new year promises a fresh start and new beginnings but often not for those living with chronic illness. Photo by **Olya Kobruseva** from **Pexels**

"A new year offers the chance for a blank slate, new beginnings and exciting prospects and opportunities. However, when living with a chronic illness, the start of a new year can give rise to pain and uncertainty." Share on X

New Year, New Beginnings – But Is it?

New year, new beginnings, new year resolutions, new year and new me. The end of one year and the beginning of another can evoke great excitement and anticipation as thoughts preoccupy on ‘what’s next’? It provides an opportunity for self-reflection and self-improvement, which is when people with the best intentions set goals and make resolutions.

But when living with chronic illness, there are no new beginnings. Illness and its symptoms ignore the calendar, paying no attention to the date and with no care if it’s a holiday or a day of celebration. Symptoms appear leaving plans in disarray or left unable to engage with festivities along with everyone else. Often, chronic illness symptoms ruin the well-made plans of birthdays, Christmases and even appear during long awaiting holidays.

The new year and the future in general often leads to feelings of anxiety and apprehension as I reflect on previous years and realise how my life has changed for the worse as illness continues to progress and worsen.

However, after many years of living with FND and its cruel effects, and the more my life changes, I only feel apprehension and a sense of anxiety as a New Year approaches, and when looking to the future. I can no longer feel excitement for the forthcoming year. I cannot envision the potential new experiences and opportunities that so many can when looking to the future.

"After years of living with chronic illness, and the more my life changes because of it, I only feel apprehension as a New Year approaches, and when looking to the future. I can no longer feel excitement for the forthcoming year." Share on X

Instead, as I sit and reflect on the year that has passed, I can only envisage the worsening of the symptoms that constantly plague me; how I am worse now than the previous year. And forced to acknowledge the new limitations that have befallen me, and the abilities and such that illness have stolen from me. And as I look to the future, fear and apprehension begin to unravel as I can only fret whether there will be a further progression in my symptoms. As well as worry about what this disorder will take from me next.

"As I sit and reflect on the year that has passed, I can only envisage the worsening of the symptoms that constantly plague me; how I am worse now than the previous year." Share on X

New Years Resolutions: Symbolising The Unpredictability of Chronic Illness

As a new year emerged once more, my social media feeds began to fill with the resolutions that friends and acquaintances promised themselves they would keep for the year. The vow to lose weight, stop smoking or find that dream job they wish for themselves. Making changes allowing for self-improvement and progress in life.

As I reflect on my life with chronic illness, however, I realise that it is not feasible to make such vows. I often promise myself that I will accomplish something, only to have the unpredictability of my illness thwarting my intentions. I often go to bed telling myself that tomorrow will be the day that I get up early to do that thing I’ve meant to do only for tomorrow to arrive and I’m unable to get out of bed because my legs refuse to function. Or I’ve found that I’ve slept through my alarm after a restless night battling debilitating pain and excruciating muscle spasms.

The new year is also the time of the year when we tend to make resolutions, or goals on what we would like to achieve during the year. Difficult to make when living with such unpredictability like a chronic illness.

"As I reflect on my life, I realise that it is not feasible to make such resolutions. I often promise myself that I will accomplish something, only to have the unpredictability of my illness thwarting my intentions." Share on X

As I fail to accomplish my goals, I only begin to feel bad about myself, beating myself up for not doing so. It makes me feel like a failure. And so I do not make such resolutions as I do not need or want the additional, undue pressure.

As Every New Year Passes There Is No Change; Still Enduring The Same Symptoms

For some, it might be ‘new year, new me’ but when living with a chronic illness, there are no new beginnings or a new self. Life and the symptoms that accompany illness continue to be unpredictable. There is no time or room to establish a ‘new me’. All my time and energy seem to concentrate on enduring the relentless, debilitating symptoms that are wreaking havoc upon my body. Trapped in limbo, never knowing when it will end, or when my body will allow me to function enough to be able to accomplish anything.

"For some, it might be 'new year, new me' but when living with a chronic illness, there are no new beginnings or a new self. Life and the symptoms that accompany illness continue to be unpredictable." Share on X

Self-improvement and progress are hard to achieve when symptoms continue to worsen. I have often found that I have taken one step forward toward progress only to be forced two steps backwards. Reflecting on the years of living with illness, I can only envisage stagnation and decline. And with no signs of improvement or progress.

Revealing The Best Way to Live Life Is To Let Go of Expectations

A lesson that living with chronic illness has taught me is that expectations often lead to disappointment. After every new prescription or new treatment leads to an expectation of improvement and recovery. But this expectation only led to disappointment as they fail to improve the symptoms that they’d promise to benefit. The promise of a sign of improvement only leads to disappointment when it does not last.

I may have to let go of expectations, but still, I can wish for magic and look for ways to reinvent myself despite the adversity thrust upon me by the relentless symptoms of FND. Photo by **Olya Kobruseva** from **Pexels**

"After every new prescription or new treatment leads to an expectation of improvement and recovery. But this expectation only led to disappointment as they fail to improve the symptoms that they'd promise to benefit." Share on X

Living life with a chronic illness is overcoming the expectation of how you imagined the year was going to be (as well as the rest of your life). And more importantly, it is gauging how to reinvent yourself alongside such adversity to live your best life despite it.

"Living life with a chronic illness is overcoming the expectation of how you imagined the year was going to be (as well as the rest of your life). And more importantly, it is gauging how to reinvent yourself alongside such… Share on X

Living without expectations allows you to be open-minded; and welcome uncertainty and surprises, good or bad. Letting go of the idea that we have control over what happens to us. Life with FND has taught me that unfortunately, I have very little control of my life and body. Sadly, I am continuing to learn its symptoms have much more control than I would like.

It means going along for the ride, whatever it has planned. Life with a chronic illness is far easier when we can roll with its punches, rather than be defeated by them.

Gracing The Future With Hope

As much as living with chronic illness and its symptoms is a colossal endurance race. But, there is also tremendous endurance in living and surviving chronic illness and chronic pain. I am often unable to acknowledge, but I continue to survive the many ordeals it throws at me. One of the most surprising things I have learnt is that as much as FND steals from me, there is still so much that it cannot take from me.

"As much as living with chronic illness and its symptoms is a colossal endurance race. But, there is also tremendous endurance in living and surviving chronic illness and chronic pain." Share on X

There is still so much joy and wonder to experience despite such adversity and suffering. And that wildly positive and infinite things are still possible despite evidence to the contrary. Despite the continued struggles with illness, I will try gracing the future with hope and strength. And gracefully accept the unknowns and uncertainty that illness compels.

I am going to try and grace the future year with hope, positivity and strength despite the continued struggles from the severe, debilitating symptoms affecting my life.

I will continue to give up on making resolutions and plan small things that I can control. Plans such as what book I will read next, or what chocolate I will devour tonight for my weekend treat!

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. In January, I have chosen to write about the pain and uncertainty that the New Year can provoke for someone living with chronic illness.

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What The World Learnt About Chronic Illness

December 29, 2020 No Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. In December, I have written what the world learnt about chronic illness in 2020 because of the coronavirus pandemic.

What, a terrible year 2020 has been for us all.

A year that started with so much promise quickly descended into chaos. And becoming a year that will negatively impact so many. Never could we have imagined that within the first few weeks of the new year, a virus would sweep across the world, resulting in a pandemic that would disrupt life as we knew it.

2020 was the year of the pandemic as coronavirus swept around the world. It was also a year in which the world learnt about living with a chronic illness – photo by **Anna Shvets** from **Pexels**.

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As we watched the news, night after night, with horror, we witnessed the death toll rising; every statistic representing a family grieving a loved one taken by this cruel and relentless virus. But the virus did not only affect those who lost a loved one because of it, or those unlucky enough to contract it but affected us all.

A Pandemic and A Lockdown

For months we did as the government asked and stayed at home, leaving the house only if necessary. Many began working from home, and parents became teachers as schools shut its doors. Nights outs were swapped for nights in binge-watching the latest offering from our favourite streaming services. Our movements became restricted as the virus continued to spread And we were all forced to adapt to a ‘new normal.’

As the pandemic worsened lockdowns became enforced as the world was forced to close non-essential shops, hospitality establishments and so on

However, for those living with chronic illness, much of what everyone was experiencing was already normal. And for us, 2020 became the year when the world learnt about life with chronic illness.

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What The World Learnt About Chronic Illness In 2020

Living With Constant Uncertainty is Exhausting and Overwhelming

When living with a chronic illness, uncertainty becomes closely tied alongside the new title tethered forevermore to your existence. One of the harder aspects of dealing with a chronic illness is the fear of the unknown. Life becomes entirely uncertain. Plans are uncertain as we struggle to grasp how we will feel from day-to-day and making it difficult to commit to anything. The symptoms that accompany illness are also uncertain, never knowing when they will next appear; or whether they will improve or worsen over time.

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Uncertainty is something that is deeply familiar for those living with chronic illness, but it has also been something that has been felt throughout the world as the pandemic caused a great deal of it – photo by **Josh Hild** from **Pexels**

The current COVID-19 pandemic has created a deep sense of uncertainty and fear that many have experienced because of it. Uncertainty has raised questions including how long will it last, and whether life will ever return to normal. And such questions are ones we have asked after a diagnosis of a chronic illness. These worries and the uncertainty regarding job security and finances have been exhausting and overwhelming for everyone during the pandemic. Many people have reported feelings of depression and anxiety during these events, especially with the recurring lockdowns.

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As a result, 2020 has been the year when the world realised how living with constant uncertainty is exhausting and difficult.

Constantly Being at Home Is Neither Nice Nor Exciting

As well as the extremely overused question of, “How are you?” another question often asked is “So, what do you do?” A question that many living with a chronic illness dreads as many of us have to explain why we are unable to work. Instead of encountering judgmental comments, many reply on how enjoyable and exciting it must be to spend so much time at home.

In truth, days are spent behind closed doors enduring excruciating pain and other such horrible symptoms. But it is not just the accompanying symptoms of chronic illness that makes constant days at home difficult and anything but enjoyable and exciting. The difficulty also lies in the monotony and boredom of days spent in bed. And as pleasurable it may sound to watch as much Netflix as time allows, it soon becomes tedious and tiresome.

As the lockdown continued for several months, and we all stayed at home, the world learns that it is not a treat or exciting being confined – photo by **Matthias Groeneveld** from **Pexels**.

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But many people reported struggling with the confinement inside the same four walls during the lockdown. Many cried that they had enough of binge-watching entire seasons of whatever show became the latest obsession. Many wished for the pandemic’s quick ending, and subsequent lockdown so we could all return to normality. And so they finally appreciated that so much time at home is neither nice nor exciting but rather boring and monotonous.

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A Year of Very Little Socialising and a Case of Not Going Out

For those living with chronic illness, a popular meme exists which has become popular on social media. It is one that reads ‘The Bins Go Out More Than I Do.’ During 2020, however, it became a meme that I have seen shared countless of time and nor just by the chronically ill community. For the course of the lockdowns, the reality for the majority was this very predicament.

The reality of living with a chronic illness means that cancelled plans or the feeling of not being able to do what you’d really like to becomes the norm. There exists grief of feeling as if you are missing out on your life. As well as constantly needing to grieve the time you have lost or everything you have missed out on.

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Much of the world felt loneliness and isolation during the pandemic and recurrent lockdowns. Many have experienced pain and grief over cancelled plans and unable to see friends and family. Or the intense frustration of being unable to do what you want. All of which are too familiar for those living with chronic illness and will continue long after the pandemic has ended.

A Time of Indulging In Social Media and Telecommunication

When living with a chronic illness and experiencing intense, debilitating symptoms, it isn’t easy to visit friends and family. Long days and nights spent alone with only symptoms for company, still yearning for social contact.

Computers were used a lot during this year for keeping in touch with friends and family with frequent Zoom calls! But the world now knows it’s not a substitute for a physical hug!

Many assume that those living with chronic illness can utilise social media and telecommunication services to keep in touch with friends. And that modern technology is a favourable substitute in favour of face-to-face contact.

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With months and months of only being able to keep in contact with loved ones via FaceTime or Zoom the world has now realised that social media interactions are not the same as face to face interactions. And never again will people underestimate the power of a physical hug from loved ones.

Anxiety Rearing Its Head When Cutting The Ties of Isolation

From living with a chronic illness, I know that isolation is hard going, but so is escaping it. When becoming ill, or experiencing a serious flare, in many ways normality stops. There is no going out. My world consists of nothing but my bed, the comfortable sofa in the living room (when I can reach it) and my thoughts. There is only knowledge of how excruciating the pain has become or the intensity of other such abhorrent symptoms.

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When the flare subsides, and your body is now allowing you the chance to go out once again, the wonder of the outside world is mixed with terror. Suddenly, going outside and doing things you once did evokes anxiety and worry. It’s as if I have landed on a different planet, everything different and threatening. After being confined for so long, it can feel like you will die when leaving the safety of home. You are not, of course, and you begin to breathe slowly, reminding yourself that this is something you used to do all the time.

Many have reported feeling anxious and worried when the lockdowns have eased, and we have been able to return to some normality. Crowds of people suddenly threatening in a way that it never had before. The anxiety we feel because of chronic illness, and theirs is not the same, however. One occurs due to a sickness that already exists, the worry of exacerbating it and becoming worse. The other exists as a result of avoiding becoming ill, the fear of coronavirus affecting so many.

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In many ways, 2020 has blurred the lines between the healthy and sick. We have all become a little housebound, missing the normality of our old lives. And the fear that we may never regain normalcy again. It has been a year in which the world learnt a lot about life with chronic illness. Let’s hope they remember the lessons.

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