To My Pain

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness.  Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain.  One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts.  For April, and because for several weeks I have been experiencing a severe pain flare, I would use the prompts to write a letter to my pain.

To My Pain

Yes, I have addressed this letter to you, ‘my’ pain and not just pain. I know pain is felt by many. Perhaps if you were benign, harmless and temporary, I would have only addressed it to pain. But you’re not, you’re persistent and chronic, becoming a significant and permanent part in my life. You have become another part of me, so I think I can refer to you as ‘my pain.’ The pain I feel, the pain you make me feel, is personal to me; something that is felt by only me, remaining invisible and unknown to everyone else.

"Pain is deeply personal to the individual.  We do not feel the same pains. It remains invisible and unknown to everyone around us." Share on X

Living with constant and debilitating pain is tiring…well more like exhausting!

What’s it like to live with you, you ask? Well, it’s tiring. Wait, it can be so much more than tiring. It’s exhausting. For weeks now, the excruciating and debilitating as it’s worst, there have been no breaks, no respite from the torment you have been inflicting on me and my life.

"Living with chronic pain is always tiring; exhausting even. Pain allows for no breaks, no respite from its torment." Share on X

You, which has become a sharp, electric shock type of sensation throughout my spine and legs, and one which has prevented me from getting to sleep, or on other occasions waking me from sleep. Getting a decent amount of sleep has therefore been hard to come by. And it has only made these last few weeks even more tiring as a result.

The impact that you have on those you blight spreads far and wide. The heightened levels of pain you have caused me has also added anxiety in my life. At times, I have become so overwhelmed and incapacitated by you that I can find myself unable to function. Physically, it can cause my legs to buckle before giving on me unexpectedly, giving me little time to react. You can also cause brain fog; causing me to remember important information or losing words I am searching for amongst a cloud of thick fog. The added stress and anxiety has become tiring, this constant worry about when this sudden loss of being able to function will occur, even the fear of going out in case of such an attack.

It’s tiring having to deal with setbacks that you create; the impediments created by your overwhelming urge to show your continued dominance, causing yet another dreaded flare. The continued knocks to our self-confidence as we once again begin to question our abilities and what we are capable of on any given day.

"It's tiring having to deal with setbacks from chronic pain; the impediments created by its overwhelming urge to show its continued dominance, causing yet another dreaded flare." Share on X

Through difficult times comes the opportunity for educating

Through the exhaustion and tiredness that you create, however, is also the opportunity for educating ourselves about you and what methods we can implement to calm and lessen the effect that you have on my life.

It reminds me of the quote ‘A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.’ Meaning that through the tough times that you cause, we can learn more about what helps and what doesn’t to come up with a more effective pain management plan for the future.

Time and time again I’m reminded that pain is uncontrollable. You like nothing more than to show your power and dominance, and where there is nothing I can do to quieten your reign of terror. To try and control you, would prove to be futile, and waste precious energy I don’t possess. The only thing I can do therefore is to learn ways to manage your existence.

"Time and time again I am reminded that chronic pain is uncontrollable. Liking to show it's power and dominance. We can only learn ways to manage its existence." Share on X

I have been educating myself on alternative methods to manage you and your unwelcome presence. I have been mainly looking into CBD oil and the positive effects it can have on you, on pain. And I have been learning that there is certainly a lot to educate me about concerning CBD oil!

At the receiving end of your wrath…

Until I take action however, I continue to be at the receiving end of your anger and wrath. Especially at night, when there are no distractions to be found to help ease the burden of pain. I’m forced to receive your attempts to enforce insomnia, as well as the debilitating pain.

And unfortunately sleep does not come, and when I awaken, I observe incredibly dark circles under my eyes. My reflection was expressing the lack of sleep that I received the night before. The need to rejoin the real world calls, I depend on concealer and blusher to disguise the physical effects that you bequeath.

"Living with chronic pain and it's invisibility we are often at the receiving end of judgements and suspicion; believing that we are faking being sick when in fact we are faking being well." Share on X

You are mostly invisible, but disguising the only physical evidence of your existence, I am at the receiving end of judgements and suspicion. When people cannot see something, they often deny its reality. In the case, of illness people assume that we must be fabricating our supposed illness; that because we look healthy than we must be so. What most people cannot comprehend that we are not faking being ill, but are instead faking being well.

As much as pain has taken it has also been giving…

I could write a long list of what chronic pain has taken from me, such as loss of independence as one example. However, pain has also been giving me little gifts that are important to remember and appreciate.

"As much as chronic pain has taken from me, it has also given me many gifts and taught me many valuable lessons." Share on X

Chronic pain has taught me some valuable lessons that make it easier to bare living with you every day. You have allowed me to learn things about myself that I may have never learned otherwise. Giving me the knowledge that I’m stronger than I ever thought; the training to be better prepared to face difficult situations as well as future flares. Pain has also given me patience. When experiencing a chronic pain flare, although exceptionally unpleasant, I know there will be an end. I need to wait it out, thus requiring patience.

"Pain has taught me patience. Something I've needed when experiencing a chronic pain flare; knowing there will be an end, I need to wait it out." Share on X

Quieting…

I am now calling on patience now as I wait on this current chronic pain flare to cease and subside. Oh, I know that you will inevitably return but right now I am waiting on you to quieting down the strength of the power you hold over my body. Waiting on the day to which your volume has quietened enough for me to be able to continue with my life without your constant influence.

Regards

Me, Rhiann.